You know, I've long thought that marriage has become a bit of a joke. Just look at that Kardashian woman, splitting up after 72 days, and probably the whole thing was a publicity stunt anyway. Not that she's the only 'celebrity' whoring her wedding out for cash. Then there's the wedding TV shows, (oh sure I watch them, so I'm as guilty as anyone.. can't get enough of those huge, crazy, black women on Bridezillas) giving all and sundry the opportunity to be a 'celebrity' for their big day. In fact the whole thing about getting married seems (for a lot of people) to have turned into an excuse to have a party, wear a stupidly expensive dress and get themselves into a shit-load of debt. The whole 'I want to spend the rest of my life with this person' bit seems to only be an afterthought, if indeed it is thought about at all...
Truth be told it pisses me off because although I am not in the slightest bit religious, I take my marriage vows very seriously indeed. Mistress R and I got married in the early nineties when we were in our early twenties, and even before the whole chastity thing I kind of wished there was something 'more' that people who were actually serious about their commitment to each other could progress to. Of course in the BDSM community there is, with the whole collaring ceremony thing, but at the time I was more thinking of something a little more vanilla. I suppose there's always the tattooing each other's names on your skin route, but I'm not big on tattoo's really. And anyway, there's plenty of dumbasses who have got their ex-spouse's name tattooed on them already, isn't there? (Tommy Lee, Pamela Anderson to name but two).
No, almost anything that can be thought up will eventually migrate to the mainstream and become devalued, unless that something takes some sort of long term 'effort', because 'effort' is not the 'dumbasses' strong point (cost is never a real barrier, because somehow 'dumbasses' always seem to find ways of making considerable amounts of cash, but 'effort' is a whole other ballgame).
Just to be clear, I'm not ragging on everyone who has ever got divorced, or separated, I'm not suggesting that you should stay with someone indefinitely if you are no longer happy or things have changed just because you promised you would. I'm sure most people can see that there is a palpable difference between people who are entering into marriage which later turns out to be a mistake and people who are having a WEDDING FOR THE SAKE OF HAVING A WEDDING.
Anyway, rant over. As I said, I do feel that there should be some 'higher' level of marriage (kinda like an 'advanced driving licence') for people who are actually 'serious' about their commitment to each other, and it should be something which requires some kind of sustained effort. Jewellery makers have already introduced the 'eternity' ring of course, but anyone can buy one of those if they have the cash, so really, so what?
Yeah sure, Mistress R does have an eternity ring and when I bought it for her it was symbolic of our commitment to each other after a slightly shaky period of our marriage. But if I had any doubt that I still wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, then I wouldn't have done it. Indeed, my previous girlfriend once asked me to buy her one and I point blank refused, not because of the cost, but simply because even though I was in a (pretty crap) relationship with her, I was pretty sure I wasn't going to be spending the rest of my life with her, and I wasn't about to give her something like that, with no intention of standing behind it.
So what's this got to do with anything, you might rightfully ask, well... of course it comes back to chastity. Something which requires sustained effort, something which can't be bought, something which is mostly shared only between the couple practising it.... something which doesn't have to pander to self-indulgent commercialisation, doesn't require precious metals and expensive stones (unless you particularly wanted that ruby encrusted titanium cock-tube of course), doesn't warrant front page headlines in trashy magazines (well, perhaps it would if it were talked about!), yet something which does make the couple closer, more loving, more intimate... probably even happier than ever if it works out right.
It all makes a lot of sense doesn't it?
As I lay in bed last night, half asleep, half drunk on lust (yes I was reading the filth before I turned out the lights again), waiting for Mistress R to come to bed and tease me a little before sleep, I pondered if Mistress R has really yet grasped just how much I love and adore her. It's hard to say of course, since there's a limit to how much we can ever really know anyone, but I think she has at least some idea.
It's hard to explain to someone who isn't submissive that feeling you get when you know that you would do 'x' for your Mistress if she asked you too. It may never happen, it may not be something that your Mistress actually wants to happen, but in a way that isn't that important. It's like the perverts answer to 'I would take a bullet for you', nobody wants to see their partner 'take a bullet' for them, it's merely an expression conveying depth of feeling. And merely coming to realise that you would do something for another person out of love which you would not, or could not do for yourself is at once overwhelming and quite humbling actually... at least that was my experience.*
*You can read more about this here
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