That subject again...

A very good post here at 'Thoughts of a Submissive Cuckhubby' about his feelings about interracial/cuckolding. Well worth a read (go 'here').

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Been discussing the subject of cuckolding recently with someone which made me think about posting (again) on the subject. I know that it is not for me, I am just not wired to accept that, and while it would be nominally preferable to being cheated on, in reality I'm sure either would be disastrous. But that doesn't mean that reading stories about the subject don't make me hard. This I'm sure is not uncommon among lots of people, it's no different from, say, a woman enjoying reading stories where the female character is 'forced' to do something she doesn't want to, it doesn't mean that she would want it to happen in real life, or even enjoy it if it did.
I'm only really making this comparison to justify (to myself perhaps) my thoughts on this subject.
Furthermore, I think it's true to say that 'cuckolding' for me as a fantasy is very precisely defined, it is not something that I generally think about with regard to (the real life) Mistress R.
Now, of course you could point to my story 'Owned' (for one) as a contradiction to this statement, but for me, although I write in the first person, and as an extension (or perhaps more accurately 'gross-exaggeration')  of my own experiences, the dividing line for me is clear, this is fiction that I am writing, it is somehow abstract, it is based on the 'character' of Mistress R, but it is not actually her, just as the male character is not actually me.
Am I making sense yet? Forgive me but I feel compelled to ramble on a while longer.
Quite why I feel the need to go over this again and again on here is not quite clear, but I do think that over time it has helped me rationalise my thoughts in this matter and make me understand that it is okay to fantasize about something which very specifically would not be acceptable to me in real life.
The twist in the tail of course is that when we are in a session and Mistress R makes me suck her dildo or strap-on and talks to me about having me suck another guys cock that's been inside her, it makes my cock so hard and has been known to send me deeper into subspace than almost anything else. Now logically, if everything I said was correct, this should not happen. But it does... (damn you logic!).
I think there are many reasons for this, not least a shared understanding that this is 'pretend' and 'safe'. Also I think there is a huge difference between the fantasy of cuckolding (as I imagine it) and the reality. If I were to describe my perfect cuckolding fantasy it would not involve sitting at home alone, knowing that my wife was out with someone else, it would be three of us together in a room, together. In fact it would be essentially a three way encounter, but with my own involvement essentially dictated by her. Is that even really cuckolding? Is it just a one-sided Femdom threesome? Well I guess it is technically cuckolding, but it's a very specific type.
Also, the main elements of the fantasy which would appeal to me would be some 'forced cock worship' and cleaning the woman afterwards. Essentially the other male is irrelevant, he is just a 'cock', a human dildo for the woman to use for her pleasure and for my humiliation. There is no concept of the woman having any kind of 'relationship' with him, other than fucking, because that would be too 'threatening'. Which is why I can understand why people who want to have any kind of threesome often use a prostitute of some kind, because the danger of 'feelings' becoming involved is greatly reduced (not that I'm recommending unprotected sex with a prostitute or anyone else for that matter you understand!).
Which brings us to one of the biggest problems with the transition from fantasy to reality. Never have I come across a cuckolding story where safe sex is practiced, or if it is, the condom full of cum usually ends up dumped in the cuckold's mouth, one way or another. A lot of cuckolding fantasies are interlinked with 'cum eating' fantasies and in this day and age that's really not a great idea is it? I mean I understand why that is, I'm sure cuckolding stories where everything's done in accordance with safe-sex practices would be about as popular as porn films with condoms in them (ie: not very!), and I certainly wouldn't think to write such a story, how fucking dull would that be! But still...
In reality I would imagine cuckolding (for most people) is probably not a good idea. For some I'm sure it's fine, in Q&k's case they progressed from 'swinging' so I can see that would probably mean that they had a lot more idea of what they were getting themselves into, but interestingly (as you'll see if you read k's comment on the post I linked to on Cuckhubby's site above) Q still has not let K see her 'in action' with another man yet. I can understand the logic, in that she doesn't think he's 'ready' for it, but to me that is totally at odds with my thoughts as detailed above... but then I'm more than sure that Q knows what's best for them, and you only have to read one of their blogs to realise that their unconventional relationship works extremely well for them. Indeed it was not long ago that I felt compelled to defend their lifestyle on their blog from comments left by someone who plainly couldn't comprehend that someone else could exist with a different set of values than their own and yet still have a strong and loving relationship, which they obviously do.
This is one subject you (well 'I' at any rate) really could talk in circles all day and still never come to a satisfactory conclusion isn't it? This isn't the first time I've broached it and I'm sure it won't be the last either, because it's perversely and endlessly intriguing how something which I find fairly abhorrent in reality can also be very arousing in fantasy! I guess the truth is that reading (and writing) cuckold fiction and Mistress 'talking' about making me do things in a session isn't hurting anyone, and sticking to that is the best way to ensure that things stay that way (not that there was any question about that in the first place!!!).