Today started much better. Mistress R doesn't work on Fridays so we actually get more than two minutes together in the morning. We were both awake a little before my alarm was set to go off and I was hard. Mistress lazily played with my cock and balls until my alarm went off and then told me I had to get up. I held her tight and kissed her neck as my cock throbbed against her... it felt so good to be properly hard again, I can't wait until Sunday.
Last night was cool too, Mistress R and I went to a local pub/restaurant in the next but one village. It was rather empty and we had plenty of seats to choose from. It's a really nice place but some of the seats are so uncomfortable, and the best ones were in a draught. So we moved a few times to some not particularly comfortable leather seats, but at least we weren't cold. As we were chatting away Mistress R rested her semi-slutty shoe on my knee and I couldn't help but stroke her foot. The place was kind of empty but the staff were still coming and going and I was conscious of how much I really wanted to take Mistress R's shoe off and worship her foot!
It was kind of a new experience, I guess... it's not like it was so outrageous or anything, but it was kind of exciting and Mistress R kept smiling at me as she watched me fidgeting with her foot, knowing full well that it was playing on my mind. I love that Mistress R has taken to wearing open toed sandals a lot more, I love to be able to see her gorgeous feet when we're out, it makes her even hotter than ever!
:)
Day 36 today... will I still be in chastity come Monday morning? Well, yes I will... but will I be starting day 39 or day 1, that is the question!
Oh yes, and welcome to 'Und', who is my 150th follower!
Friday, 10 August 2012
Thursday, 9 August 2012
New poll...
I'm just re-reading Suzanne Portnoy's book 'The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker' and there's a part where her sometime boyfriend lets her in on a secret, that being that for men, the biggest turn on is not 'skimpy' knickers, but no knickers. So I thought I'd test this theory in this weeks poll.
Last weeks.... well, fortnight's poll showed that two-thirds of you regularly get so turned on that you would do almost ANYTHING your wife-girlfriend-mistress-etc asked... I'm truly jealous of you. I rarely get that deep into sub-space, but I would love to get there a lot more.
Last weeks.... well, fortnight's poll showed that two-thirds of you regularly get so turned on that you would do almost ANYTHING your wife-girlfriend-mistress-etc asked... I'm truly jealous of you. I rarely get that deep into sub-space, but I would love to get there a lot more.
Wednesday, 8 August 2012
Really really good, and really really sucky...
So it's day 34 for me and you would think that I would be horny as a rhinoceros dosed up on Spanish Fly, wouldn't you? Well, not so much... on the upside I gave Mistress R an orgasm tonight which she described as 'wonderful', and I would say from her reaction, it was even better than the last one, and that was pretty good. So that really was wonderful, for both of us. She tasted so good and I love it when she comes so hard, it makes me really happy... unfortunately my joy was a little short lived.
Because unfortunately, during our last couple of 'encounters' my cock really wasn't as hard as I would have liked it to be, albeit it got harder as we went on, and we did manage to have sex with it last time. But tonight it really wasn't great at all, which left me thoroughly pissed off.
The weird thing is that for the past few weeks it has been better than ever really, I woke up rock hard every morning and it would stay rock hard for as long as I wanted without even being touched. Yet suddenly it's gone on the blink again. I've been getting a lot of pain in my foot of late, and I'm feeling numb around my groin, but I would have thought a few early nights would have sorted that out (being tired makes the damaged nerves in my back play up which affect the signals from my leg and groin).
Like I said before, chastity can help with ED but for me at least it's only 95% effective. To be fair, it's a long time since I've had this much of an issue... before the blog started I think, so that's not too bad, given my age and general condition. Still fucking pisses me off though...
Our Femdom session is scheduled for Sunday, so hopefully that will result in some improvement, otherwise I think it's going to be cock rings for a while, at least until this passes.
Because unfortunately, during our last couple of 'encounters' my cock really wasn't as hard as I would have liked it to be, albeit it got harder as we went on, and we did manage to have sex with it last time. But tonight it really wasn't great at all, which left me thoroughly pissed off.
The weird thing is that for the past few weeks it has been better than ever really, I woke up rock hard every morning and it would stay rock hard for as long as I wanted without even being touched. Yet suddenly it's gone on the blink again. I've been getting a lot of pain in my foot of late, and I'm feeling numb around my groin, but I would have thought a few early nights would have sorted that out (being tired makes the damaged nerves in my back play up which affect the signals from my leg and groin).
Like I said before, chastity can help with ED but for me at least it's only 95% effective. To be fair, it's a long time since I've had this much of an issue... before the blog started I think, so that's not too bad, given my age and general condition. Still fucking pisses me off though...
Our Femdom session is scheduled for Sunday, so hopefully that will result in some improvement, otherwise I think it's going to be cock rings for a while, at least until this passes.
Monday, 6 August 2012
I love it...
Another lovely orgasm for Mistress R last night, after which she grabbed my cock and roughly dug her nails into it as she started to stroke me. Soon she mounted me and rode my cock while I worried about holding back 32 days of cum... Mistress was wearing a plain white bra but she did peel it down for a few seconds so that I could see her gorgeous breasts. Then she was back at my side stroking and teasing and musing on what I would be prepared to do to get my tongue in her ass. Then she gave me a close up of her asshole again as she played with my cock.... so hard!
Then she lay down next to me again and even pulled my hand down between her cheeks so that I could stroke her asshole, something I can't remember her ever doing before. It seems to me that Mistress R is really starting to allow her Femdom session persona to leak into our everyday sex, and I LOVE it!
Then she lay down next to me again and even pulled my hand down between her cheeks so that I could stroke her asshole, something I can't remember her ever doing before. It seems to me that Mistress R is really starting to allow her Femdom session persona to leak into our everyday sex, and I LOVE it!
Sunday, 5 August 2012
Another question for Mistress R...
Received this through the email...
"We have been practicing orgasm denial through the honour system for a little over a year. My main question has to do with initiation of intimacy that will lead to my wife's orgasms. She has of course given me free reign to initiate foot rubbing, back rubbing ect, but when it comes to initiating further intimacy that would lead to her orgasm I am not sure whether to sit back and wait for her to decide to take things to that level or should I give her the quick reminder that I am there ready to satisfy her. I typically transition a foot or back rub into more private areas just as a reminder that I am there for her if she would like, but those advances are often shot down. Would I be better served to just sit back and wait for her to make those moves since she knows that I am always ready and willing to go at all times anyway."
Mistress R says: It's difficult to know without more detail on your background and what you've agreed with your wife, but from what you've said I think you're doing the right thing waiting for her to initiate intimacy. As long as you're confident that she is happy to have the control and knows that she can ask for intimacy whenever she wants it. Maybe if you feel that the time since the last intimacy has been excessive or you're feeling disconnected from her then maybe that would be the time to communicate with her about it and tell her how you are feeling.
We know we still have some questions left to answer, hopefully they will be along soon...
Fifty Shades and the Philadelphia Incident...
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Fifty Shades and the "Philadelphia Incident"
I'm not really sure if this is the best place to voice these opinions and concerns. And I'm not really sure if it's my place to be voicing them at all. This whole topic isn't easy for me to discuss (it's very personal) but I've never been very good at keeping my mouth shut when I think I have a point to make.
So - I've found over recent weeks two different hot topics that I've been paying attention to have apparently dovetailed.
I'm talking about the Fifty Shades of Grey series, an adapted Twilight- fan fiction which has been published and hit the New York Times bestsellers list, and what people in the BDSM have been calling the Philadelphia Incident.
To briefly bring those not familiar with either topic up to date: Fifty Shades of Grey is a story that deals with a young, naive virgin who enters into a domination and submission relationship with an older, powerful, controlling man. Eventually she manages to bring out his softer side and the two fall in love.
The 'Philadelphia Incident' concerns a younger, inexperienced female submissive who entered into a domination and submission relationship with a dominant older man. Her limits were violated and she was forced to enter into oral sex against her will. Some people in the BDSM community are calling this rape. Some people have suggested that the submissive woman consented. Others have criticised the submissive woman for not fully understanding what she was getting herself into. The young woman has now been run out of her home due to the criticism, publicity and notoriety she has faced.
Hopefully my point is already becoming clear.
In her novels E L James romanticizes the BDSM community, takes elements of 'play' out of context and dramatizes what many would consider to be extremely unsafe D/s practice. The female in the story enters into 'scenes' which she is unsure about, where limits have not been pre-discussed or agreed, and where she is abandoned post-scene on more than one occassion with no after-care or conversation about what had happened during the session.
The novel completely ignores elements of safe play that those familiar with the BDSM community would immediately recognize. RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink. SSC stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual. (Note the repeated word in both anagrams). This topic is completely ignored or glossed over in James' novels and, considering the reaction they have amassed, this is a concern.
Safe BDSM play can be amazing. I can say this as someone who has both dominated others and submitted to others in a range of situations. It is something that I rarely discuss other than with those in the community for fear of repercussions - BDSM is fairly misunderstood by the wider public. In the right circumstances, with the forethought, planning and discussion then there are still hundreds of ways a session can go wrong. I have been mid-session with someone who I love very much, in a safe place, when we are both fully aware of each others limits. And I panicked. And ended up vomiting into the toilet and crying into his chest. This was an isolated incident, and we weren't doing anything particularly risky at the time. But I still panicked. Fortunately my partner was fantastic at releasing me quickly and soothing me afterwards. Even with the best of intentions things can still go wrong.
Although I have not followed reaction to James' novel closely, one article I recently read criticising the BDSM elements of the story was met with comments from a reader expressing that the story is fantasy, not unlike the Harry Potter stories or Twilight, and not as a how-to guide of BDSM.
Firstly, thank God it isn't a how-to guide of BDSM because James clearly has little, if any experience of D/s relationships. Secondly, this point in particular scared me more than any other I read.
If one was to dress in a cloak and wand and pretend to be a wizard, short of poking an eye out there is a limited amount of danger that could occur.
If a young woman with no experience of BDSM was to make her way into the community and play with an older man when she herself was unaware of her own limits, very terrible things can happen, as demonstrated recently in Philadelphia. Comparing Fifty Shades to Harry Potter is simply ludicrous, on many levels. There are many different layers and elements to BDSM. starting at fluffy handcuffs and ending in blood, tears and rape. Someone pretending to be a wizard will not experience these things.
The second point made by the same commenter was that James never intended for the novel to be so popular, it was released for a very small audience only and she was surprised at the reaction it has received. I don't think this argument holds much weight either. I'm writing this article for the consumption of a very small audience too. I do not expect many people to read or react to it. Does that excuse me from factual accuracy? Not at all. If my article goes viral and thousands of people read it then I am still responsible for the words that I have put out there.
Finally I want to reiterate that a huge majority of people in the BDSM community recognise our vulnerability (BDSM is actually illegal in the United States - yes, illegal - I'm fortunate enough to live in the UK) and as such, instances as the 'Philadelphia Incident' are rare. Most people play by the rules of RACK. Most people are responsible for themselves, for their partners, and there is a strong sense of 'mentoring' to ensure that newbies to the community are watched and are able to learn from those with more experience. Despite all this, it's too easy for things to be taken just that one step too far with disastrous results.
I feel like it is my responsibility as one of the people who bridges the gap between the BDSM community and the Fifty Shades readership to speak out against the practices shown in the series.Please, please - if you are a single woman who has read these stories and wants to explore the topics contained therein, do everything you can to not follow in the footsteps of both E L James' characters and the young girl in Philadelphia. Take your time. Find someone you can trust. Be safe.
(Please feel free to re-blog, re-post, re-tweet, link, copy, plagiarize, do whatever the hell you want with the above. It would be nice if you credited it back to me but in truth, if you want to stick this somewhere else where it might be seen by more people, please, do it. I'm not precious. Spread the word.
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Fifty Shades and the "Philadelphia Incident"
I'm not really sure if this is the best place to voice these opinions and concerns. And I'm not really sure if it's my place to be voicing them at all. This whole topic isn't easy for me to discuss (it's very personal) but I've never been very good at keeping my mouth shut when I think I have a point to make.
So - I've found over recent weeks two different hot topics that I've been paying attention to have apparently dovetailed.
I'm talking about the Fifty Shades of Grey series, an adapted Twilight- fan fiction which has been published and hit the New York Times bestsellers list, and what people in the BDSM have been calling the Philadelphia Incident.
To briefly bring those not familiar with either topic up to date: Fifty Shades of Grey is a story that deals with a young, naive virgin who enters into a domination and submission relationship with an older, powerful, controlling man. Eventually she manages to bring out his softer side and the two fall in love.
The 'Philadelphia Incident' concerns a younger, inexperienced female submissive who entered into a domination and submission relationship with a dominant older man. Her limits were violated and she was forced to enter into oral sex against her will. Some people in the BDSM community are calling this rape. Some people have suggested that the submissive woman consented. Others have criticised the submissive woman for not fully understanding what she was getting herself into. The young woman has now been run out of her home due to the criticism, publicity and notoriety she has faced.
Hopefully my point is already becoming clear.
In her novels E L James romanticizes the BDSM community, takes elements of 'play' out of context and dramatizes what many would consider to be extremely unsafe D/s practice. The female in the story enters into 'scenes' which she is unsure about, where limits have not been pre-discussed or agreed, and where she is abandoned post-scene on more than one occassion with no after-care or conversation about what had happened during the session.
The novel completely ignores elements of safe play that those familiar with the BDSM community would immediately recognize. RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink. SSC stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual. (Note the repeated word in both anagrams). This topic is completely ignored or glossed over in James' novels and, considering the reaction they have amassed, this is a concern.
Safe BDSM play can be amazing. I can say this as someone who has both dominated others and submitted to others in a range of situations. It is something that I rarely discuss other than with those in the community for fear of repercussions - BDSM is fairly misunderstood by the wider public. In the right circumstances, with the forethought, planning and discussion then there are still hundreds of ways a session can go wrong. I have been mid-session with someone who I love very much, in a safe place, when we are both fully aware of each others limits. And I panicked. And ended up vomiting into the toilet and crying into his chest. This was an isolated incident, and we weren't doing anything particularly risky at the time. But I still panicked. Fortunately my partner was fantastic at releasing me quickly and soothing me afterwards. Even with the best of intentions things can still go wrong.
Although I have not followed reaction to James' novel closely, one article I recently read criticising the BDSM elements of the story was met with comments from a reader expressing that the story is fantasy, not unlike the Harry Potter stories or Twilight, and not as a how-to guide of BDSM.
Firstly, thank God it isn't a how-to guide of BDSM because James clearly has little, if any experience of D/s relationships. Secondly, this point in particular scared me more than any other I read.
If one was to dress in a cloak and wand and pretend to be a wizard, short of poking an eye out there is a limited amount of danger that could occur.
If a young woman with no experience of BDSM was to make her way into the community and play with an older man when she herself was unaware of her own limits, very terrible things can happen, as demonstrated recently in Philadelphia. Comparing Fifty Shades to Harry Potter is simply ludicrous, on many levels. There are many different layers and elements to BDSM. starting at fluffy handcuffs and ending in blood, tears and rape. Someone pretending to be a wizard will not experience these things.
The second point made by the same commenter was that James never intended for the novel to be so popular, it was released for a very small audience only and she was surprised at the reaction it has received. I don't think this argument holds much weight either. I'm writing this article for the consumption of a very small audience too. I do not expect many people to read or react to it. Does that excuse me from factual accuracy? Not at all. If my article goes viral and thousands of people read it then I am still responsible for the words that I have put out there.
Finally I want to reiterate that a huge majority of people in the BDSM community recognise our vulnerability (BDSM is actually illegal in the United States - yes, illegal - I'm fortunate enough to live in the UK) and as such, instances as the 'Philadelphia Incident' are rare. Most people play by the rules of RACK. Most people are responsible for themselves, for their partners, and there is a strong sense of 'mentoring' to ensure that newbies to the community are watched and are able to learn from those with more experience. Despite all this, it's too easy for things to be taken just that one step too far with disastrous results.
I feel like it is my responsibility as one of the people who bridges the gap between the BDSM community and the Fifty Shades readership to speak out against the practices shown in the series.Please, please - if you are a single woman who has read these stories and wants to explore the topics contained therein, do everything you can to not follow in the footsteps of both E L James' characters and the young girl in Philadelphia. Take your time. Find someone you can trust. Be safe.
(Please feel free to re-blog, re-post, re-tweet, link, copy, plagiarize, do whatever the hell you want with the above. It would be nice if you credited it back to me but in truth, if you want to stick this somewhere else where it might be seen by more people, please, do it. I'm not precious. Spread the word.
http://hidingfromsomeone.tumblr.com
Wednesday, 1 August 2012
Punishment for forgetfulness...
Regular readers of my blog will know that I try to remember every morning to get Mistress R's towels out of the cupboard and fold them neatly so that when she gets home they are ready for her when she gets out of the shower. It's not something Mistress R asked me to do, I just started doing it, and I've been doing it for quite a while now. I don't remember every morning, but probably at least 85-90% of the time I do.
So tonight when I got home Mistress R mentioned that she hadn't found any towels ready for her when she got home and jokingly told me it wasn't good enough. About three hours later just after I had gone down on her and given her a lovely orgasm, she smiled down at me and told me that I had gone some way to redeeming myself for forgetting the towels.
Some towels, earlier today.
As I kissed the insides of her thighs I muttered that she should probably still punish me anyway... but didn't think any more about it. We lay on the bed together and Mistress started to stroke my cock, then decided I needed to be spanked. This is highly unusual (and most welcome) out of session and I was quickly on my knees while she retrieved the paddle from the bedside drawer.
After I had counted and thanked her for fifteen strokes I was permitted to lay down again and Mistress R began toying with my cock, but not before telling me that she had been planning to remove her bra for this teasing session, but had decided not to as a punishment for forgetting her towels.
I've been extremely tired this week and my cock hasn't been as iron hard as it has been of late, but this morning it was hard, if not the throbbing morning wood that I've now come to expect. The problem is for me that tiredness makes me feel numb down my leg, in my groin and in my right foot (a leftover from an operation) and numbness and hardness are not good bedfellows.
But it was reasonably hard tonight, and got a little harder as Mistress R teased me about my desire to worship her ass. She described in great detail how she might mount my face in the next session and slowly lower her ass until it was just a tiny distance from my mouth and then make me beg to lick it. She stroked and slapped my cock and then turned to me and asked me if I was given the choice between being allowed to cum or being allowed to worship her ass, which one would I choose.
I told her I would worship her ass.
Mistress R said that I hardly even hesitated so she knew that I must really want to worship her ass, and then said that we'd see how I felt in a few days.... she then went on to say that if I really pleased her I might not have to wait as long as the next session.
I watched as she sucked on my cock, which was pretty hard now, though still not as throbbing as I would like, and then she gave it a few more slaps before telling me that I was getting ten more strokes and that was it for tonight. Knowing that these were the last few made them extra torturous, especially as Mistress R didn't even flinch when I told her I'd not cum for 27 days now.
It was a lovely session, we've both been so tired this week that we haven't been gelling quite as we usually do so it was so nice to reconnect like that. Tomorrow we are going out together for a drink, we had a good routine of doing that on a Thursday night, but we let it slip a while and now we are getting it back on track. I think it's very important for us to get out of the house, away from the books, laptops, TV, etc etc and just talk for a few hours.
Anyway, I am very pleased that Mistress R decided to paddle me out of session, she certainly seemed to enjoy it! As far as I'm concerned I am quite happy for her to do any of our in-session things whenever she wants. Speaking of which, I haven't heard the ring of the bell yet, but when I do I can assure you you'll hear about it!
I've been extremely tired this week and my cock hasn't been as iron hard as it has been of late, but this morning it was hard, if not the throbbing morning wood that I've now come to expect. The problem is for me that tiredness makes me feel numb down my leg, in my groin and in my right foot (a leftover from an operation) and numbness and hardness are not good bedfellows.
But it was reasonably hard tonight, and got a little harder as Mistress R teased me about my desire to worship her ass. She described in great detail how she might mount my face in the next session and slowly lower her ass until it was just a tiny distance from my mouth and then make me beg to lick it. She stroked and slapped my cock and then turned to me and asked me if I was given the choice between being allowed to cum or being allowed to worship her ass, which one would I choose.
I told her I would worship her ass.
Mistress R said that I hardly even hesitated so she knew that I must really want to worship her ass, and then said that we'd see how I felt in a few days.... she then went on to say that if I really pleased her I might not have to wait as long as the next session.
I watched as she sucked on my cock, which was pretty hard now, though still not as throbbing as I would like, and then she gave it a few more slaps before telling me that I was getting ten more strokes and that was it for tonight. Knowing that these were the last few made them extra torturous, especially as Mistress R didn't even flinch when I told her I'd not cum for 27 days now.
It was a lovely session, we've both been so tired this week that we haven't been gelling quite as we usually do so it was so nice to reconnect like that. Tomorrow we are going out together for a drink, we had a good routine of doing that on a Thursday night, but we let it slip a while and now we are getting it back on track. I think it's very important for us to get out of the house, away from the books, laptops, TV, etc etc and just talk for a few hours.
Anyway, I am very pleased that Mistress R decided to paddle me out of session, she certainly seemed to enjoy it! As far as I'm concerned I am quite happy for her to do any of our in-session things whenever she wants. Speaking of which, I haven't heard the ring of the bell yet, but when I do I can assure you you'll hear about it!
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