Pondering the Vanilla...

As quite often these days, it is reading other people’s blogs which inspires me to write posts for my own. This time it’s ‘I’m-Hers’ who has sparked my interest with a post about something I’m sure that I’ve pondered before on here. The question: ‘could we back to a normal vanilla relationship, or is it too late?’.

It’s an interesting and well written (as always) post, but the (22) comments are just as interesting and well worth a read. I noticed our good friend Sub-Hub making some interesting comments and it was one of his comments that actually really made me put finger to keyboard here….

I’m Her’s situation is a bit different to mine and Mistress R’s, theirs is more of a Wife Led Marriage where ours… isn’t that at all. Mistress R controls my orgasms and pleasure but she doesn’t give me chores (except cleaning the bathroom in my frilly panties of course…. no wait that’s a joke  ) or assume control of my salary. Nor is that something either of us wants.

So actually, in our case I do think that it wouldn’t be that difficult to go back. I mean it would take a little time to get used to things but, really we haven’t strayed all that far from the ‘norm’.

The comment made by Sub Hub which caught my attention was where he mentioned that he and Mistress K discussed their relationship and what the other would look for in a future partner in the case of one or other of them’s unfortunate demise.

Mistress K apparently wouldn’t want another submissive husband, feeling that their relationship is unique to them, whereas Sub Hub said he ‘paused long enough for her to assume that he would want another ‘Mistress’.

I can relate to that.

As much as Mistress R loves controlling my cock and getting as many orgasms as she wants, whenever she wants… all this ‘stuff’ originated from me and I honestly don’t think that if I were to die young (probably a bit late for that really!) she would be looking for a submissive-type replacement.

I’m pretty sure that if I was to have another relationship (and I’m not entirely sure I would, even though I am an awesome catch  ), if I did then I probably would want someone who I could see as a Mistress, though I have no idea how or how soon I would go about it… or whether I would feel comfortable going through the various steps to make it happen again.

On the other hand, if you don’t try you will never get anywhere (if only I was as ambitious in everyday life!), and you can’t make an omelette without breaking eggs. Breaking those eggs wasn’t the easiest of experiences… would I really want to do that again? Not entirely sure. It’s a chicken and egg situation isn’t it, I guess if I couldn’t broach it then that to me would suggest that I wasn’t comfortable enough with that person to spend the rest of my life with them…

What would be interesting would be to see how Mistress R fared with a normal bloke after being ‘in charge’ for so long? Maybe she would like having a more ‘dominant’ partner, but I wonder how long for? She certainly doesn’t seem to show any signs of willingness as far as giving up her current role…

You can read I’m Her’s post HERE

The Age of Consent...

I have been meaning to write a post on this subject for a long time, I even thought I had, but a search comes up with nothing. So…

Two stories in the news this week, firstly a girl aged twelve will become the youngest British Mother shortly, while the father (a 19 year old) faces life in prison (life doesn’t mean that in the UK, probably 15 years max). Secondly, good old Kim Kardashian has revealed that she lost her virginity at 14 to her then boyfriend Tito Jackson.

I don’t know the laws in the United States and it’s more complicated because each state seems to have it’s own law and specifics. But as far as I can tell the age of consent in the USA in general is 16, some states seemingly shy away from calling it rape if there’s less than two years difference and one is younger than 16.

Now obviously nobody can seriously think that a child of 12 having sex with a 19 year old is a good thing, because obviously it’s not, but one thing that struck me about that was that if you look at the law in Europe, while a lot of countries use the 16, 17 age as the standard, Germany has an age of consent of 14. Not only that but the law further states that the age of consent is 14 as long as the older person is not over 21. So, bizarrely, if there was a couple where the guy was 20 and the girl was 14, that would be okay, but as soon as the guy turned 21 he would have to wait for the girl to turn 16 to have sex with her again.

Hmm… Can’t see any potential problems there. Perhaps if it can be shown that the couple were together before (and legal) it would mitigate somehow…? It does seem a bit strange though that it’s legal for a 20 year old man to have sex with a fourteen year old.

I’m actually really surprised that given the European Union’s desire for ever closer ties and common regulation that there hasn’t been a move to standardise the age of consent throughout Europe. Currently 14 of the European countries have 14 as the age of consent, twelve have 15, twenty one have 16, two have 17 and three have 18.

I don’t see a standard age coming in, since would it come down in Malta (currently 18), or up in Italy (currently 14)? Presumably Malta and Vatican City aren’t going to agree to a drop of 4 years, and while it seems almost logical for the age of consent to be 16 (although that could just be because it’s always been 16 here) would France agree to putting their age of consent up a year?

Incidentally,there has been a move to reduce the age of consent in the UK (to 14) as recently as 2013, there seems little support for such a change here. It wasn’t that long ago that the homosexual age of consent was reduced to 16 from 18 (from 21 not that long before), which was because a case was taken to the European court which decided that it was discriminatory to have two age of consents, for homosexuals and heterosexuals. That being the case I see even less likelihood of the age of consent being dropped here.

Law’s being country dependent, I assume if a 19yr old guy from the UK went to Germany with his 14 year old girlfriend and they had sex I presume nothing could be done about that? I can’t see how it’s any different than the 19yr old guy going to Germany and having sex with a 14 year old German girl, or a 14 year old girl going to Germany and having sex with a 19yr old German guy (you can switch the girls and guys around too in this example).

It’s all very complicated.

I lost my virginity at 18, to a 20 year old girl (so I missed out on sex with teenage girls altogether!), I was a pretty mature kid, but in all honesty I think eighteen was about right. 16 would have been too young for me I think and 14 would definitely have been too young. And like I said, I was a mature kid. So I certainly don’t think dropping the 16 A.O.C. is a good idea.

I suppose it’s further complicated by the fact that people like Kim Kardashian can now say they lost their virginity at 14 and really is there any public interest in addressing this? It’s happening all the time here in the UK, I know a women I worked with until recently told me that she knew her grandson (15) is sleeping with his girlfriend. But what is the point of addressing this legally?

There’s seems to be a pragmatic point of view which says, well you can’t stop it, the best thing to do is to make sure they use condoms / contraceptives. Which is sensible, but a rather odd attitude to laws. If you applied that logic to everything, then we’d been in a right mess. You can’t legally ride a motorcycle until you’re 16, but you can’t stop a fourteen from doing it so just make sure they wear a helmet…

So what’s the point of having a law then. Well obviously there has to be a law, and given that the age of consent is 16, but it’s sort of accepted that 14 and 15 year old’s will probably flout it, then if you reduce the age of consent to 14, do you then accept that 12 year old will flout it? Obviously not. I can see the logic of the argument for lowering the age of consent, but the people wanting to do so, are probably doing it with the mindset of an adult thinking that we drop the age and decriminalise the act for people that are already doing it, but then there will be no leeway.

Who would be a law-maker?

What a Night!

I knew Mistress wanted me to make her cum tonight, but I had no idea how great things would turn out. First of all, Mistress had a really, really hard orgasm, which was so amazing to be a part of… I just love it when she cums like that. 

Afterwards she had me kneel between her open legs so that she could touch my cock while we kissed. It didn’t take long before I was nice and hard and as I knelt there kissing my beautiful Mistress I hoped that she was going to let me inside her. Funny, earlier in the day I was thinking about how it had been a while since I’d been allowed ‘on top’…

Mistress wrapped her legs around me and pulled me inside her silky, wet pussy, which felt just incredible. I love being inside her after she has cum because her pussy feels so different, so slick and sexy. Mmmm!

After a while Mistress told me to stop with my cock inside her. That was a first. It almost felt like she was enjoying ‘playing’ with me, probably knowing how bad I wanted to continue sliding back and forth, but just making me stay still with my cock throbbing inside her. She kissed me for a little while and then told me she wanted me to be inside her, but she wanted me to be able to see her ass.

I was quite surprised about this because Mistress knows damn well that her ass is a bit of a trigger for me. Soon she was laying on her side with my cock deep inside her beautiful pussy, while I resisted the urge to spread her ass cheeks and enjoy the sight of her asshole, right next to my cock… her pussy lips stretched around me. Mmmm.

Yeah, so that didn’t last long… and after a short while I started thrusting a little harder and faster, stopping briefly to enjoy the sight of Mistress’s asshole a few times… Mistress was obviously enjoying this immensely, as was I!

Inevitably, I started to get close and looking down at Mistress’s delicious ass wasn’t helping one bit. I really didn’t expect her to let me cum, but even as I stopped inside her, Mistress was pushing back against my cock. I told her I was close and she told me what she really wanted was for me to cum all over her ass and to lick it all up.

I was more than a little surprised, but I quickly responded, slamming my cock into her a few more times before pulling it out and jerking it over her ass and between her cheeks. I could not believe how much cum I had produced in five days, it was incredible. Still, obedient as ever, as soon as I finished cumming I slid down and started licking the copious mess off of Mistress’s ass while she moaned her pleasure. She seemed to be really enjoying it, which was really hot! 

I kept licking for quite a while, swallowing every drop and licking Mistress’s asshole a little, just to make sure it was thoroughly cleaned.

Afterwards I asked Mistress if it was an early birthday present, she said – Maybe, or a late anniversary present! Either way it was totally amazing, what a night!

Accidental P.O.T....?

Last Monday Mistress and I finally made something happen, she had a lovely orgasm and I was teased and left hard and aching. But annoyingly our joy was short-lived as Mistress period also started on Monday, so it’s taken until today for us to add to our tally.

Yesterday was our wedding anniversary, our 22nd. Which is crazy, but we got married young I guess, certainly younger than most people get married these days. Mistress doesn’t work on Friday’s but I do, so when I woke up with my alarm I had to get up, but not before Mistress gave my aching cock a few strokes… if only every morning started that way.

In the evening we had booked a table at a local restaurant, and it was pretty fantastic. The steak was so tender and cooked perfectly and we each had a delicious caramel shortbread pudding. Yeah, so much for the diet!

We were both absolutely stuffed when we got home, but it was that weird full feeling you get when you haven’t really eaten that much (volume) but it’s ‘rich’ food. We were both pretty tired anyway, it’s been a long week at work and I’m still feeling a bit crap from my eye infection / tonsilitis.

So, today we went to bed in the afternoon and Mistress was obviously ready to be taken care of, having only had one orgasm in the last two weeks (which is pretty much unheard of for her these days).

Mistress had a lovely orgasm and then she set about teasing my cock, sucking and slapping my cock and balls while allowing me to stroke her asshole with my fingertips. I really wanted to ask her to let me lick her ass, but I think I would have cum really quick, so I decided not to ask… kind of frustrating really, but still.

Mistress was really stroking me pretty hard and fast and stopping each time she sensed I was getting close. This went on for a while before finally I had to warn her that I was getting close. She quickly got up on her knees and straddled me, sliding down onto my poor, throbbing cock.

“Do you want to be allowed to cum inside me?” She asked.

Hmm, let me think about that for a minute. Mistress removed her bra while I thought about it…

“If it pleases you Mistress,” I said, hoping it was going to please her and pretty sure it would.

Mistress told me she was going to let me cum inside her and started riding my cock hard, it took barely half a dozen strokes before I could feel myself cumming inside her. And barely three or four more before she was lifting herself off and straddling my face with her cum filled pussy.

Strangely, it was almost like a ruined orgasm, because once she lifted off I could feel my cock still hard, pulsing but no more cum was erupting from it. Albeit there was already a fair amount in my mouth at this point…

After a few moment’s Mistress lifted off my face and noticing my still hard cock she grabbed it and began stroking it firmly. But by this time my cock was feeling pretty damned sensitive, so it was all I could do to remain still as she pumped the remaining cum out of my cock, onto her fingers and finally into my mouth.

I’m not sure that Mistress realised what she did (Post Orgasm Torture), but she had a big smile on her face, and that’s good enough for me.

Hopefully October will be kinder to us and I will have more to blog about, thank you for your patience.

FEMDOM SESSION 21st September 2015

Mistress and I are on holiday this week, so we decided to move our session from it’s traditional Sunday morning slot to Monday. What better way to celebrate not going to work than having a session?

Again I managed to keep my hands off my cock the whole month, and I haven’t missed a single towel duty either, so Mistress had very little to punish me for. She told me that she was going to give me a little punishment spanking anyway just to keep me in order.

I embellished this a little in my own head I must admit… I imagined her saying ‘You haven’t given me a reason to punish you slave, but I’m going to anyway, because I can… and because I like it!’.

Mistress gave me about ten or eleven strokes of the cat before having me kneel up on the floor at the foot of the bed. She grabbed the glass dildo off the bedside table and immediately told me to suck it and get it wet for her. As I concentrated on worshipping her gorgeous feet Mistress toyed her pussy, until I could her the lovely sound of the glass cock penetrating her.

As ever I was instructed to keep my eyes down, which was difficult, but for the last little bit Mistress allowed me to look up and watch her sliding the dildo into her pussy. She had me lick the dildo clean and then had me up on the bed, face up and tied me to the four corners.

It wasn’t long before Mistress was straddling my face and riding my tongue. She had instructed me to wear my Oxballs and my cock was soon hard as I enjoyed her taste and smell overwhelming me. Then she moved down the bed and started using my cock for her own pleasure, riding it as she pleased, before standing up over my head and allowing me to look up at her beautiful pussy and ass while she stroked and slapped my cock and balls.

The session seemed to go incredibly quickly and in no time Mistress had the glass butt plug inside me and the pegs on my nipples, and I was left alone for a short time. Almost as soon as she left the Oxballs really started to sting, but I managed to endure it for the next few minutes without too much trouble.

When Mistress came back she untied me and had me on my hands and knees with the glass butt plug / dildo still in my ass. She hand spanked me a few times and fucked my ass a little with the dildo, which was quite nice, and while it was disappointingly brief, it was nice to get the Oxballs off!

Then it was time for me to worship Mistress’s beautiful pussy properly. 

She had a very intense orgasm and then stood up leaving the PVC sheet spattered with pussy juice. As she stood over me more pussy juice dripped out of her and pooled on the sheet, which was so hot! She turned around and then had me lick the backs of her legs and ass clean, before instructing me to clean the sheet with my tongue. I don’t think I’ve ever swallowed so much gorgeous pussy juice at one time, it was AWESOME! 

After this Mistress had me turn over again and then stood over me once again, stroking my cock until it was nice and hard, then making me beg to lick her ass. She let me lick her ass three times, making me beg between each one, but I was still disappointed when she finally stood up and told me the session was over, I would have loved to lick her ass for a lot longer.

Ah well, I guess that’s how these sessions are supposed to end, with a satisfied Mistress and a slave desperate for more. 

It's Been a Long Time Coming...

Mistress somewhat surprised me tonight, by allowing my first ruined orgasm since January!

After coming hard on my tongue, Mistress soon had me hard and was slapping and stroking me quite vigorously. I gently teased her ass with my fingertips as I often do, and soon I was feeling quite close.

The first couple of times Mistress changed tack, slowing down the strokes and sucking my cock hard, often using her teeth as well. At some point Mistress moved up the bed and started kissing me while she continued stroking my throbbing cock, the taste of cock on her mouth made my cock throb even harder than before and after a few moments of that Mistress started stroking my cock even harder.

Fairly soon I had to warn Mistress that I was getting close and fully expected her to slow down or stop, but instead Mistress continued stroking hard and fast while looking straight at me, almost daring me to cum without permission. Meanwhile, I was trying to hold back, and repeated my warning that I was getting close.

“You may cum,” said Mistress finally, continuing to stroke my cock but getting slightly slower.

It never occurred to me until this point that maybe Mistress might be about to ruin my orgasm, and sure enough Mistress timed her strokes to perfection. Stopping… then giving me one more stroke which pushed me JUST over the edge.

It felt like Mistress had built up so much pressure in my cock, that what could have been an epic eruption, instead turned into a perfectly ruined orgasm. I couldn’t believe quite how much cum was expelled and how little pleasure I was able to feel from it. Considering Mistress almost never ruins my orgasms, she sure has a knack for doing it!

It was different to all the other ruined orgasms Mistress has granted me so far, in that in the past I haven’t felt so ‘ready to explode’ beforehand. Indeed as my cum dripped out of my cock I could feel my hole body tensing up as if was cumming, almost trying to force my orgasm to materialise, but to no avail.

It was certainly frustrating, but I really love that Mistress did it, especially after so long. 

A Lovely Teasing for Me!

Last night I was sitting on the sofa minding my own business when Mistress R come over to me and knelt between my legs. I wasn’t feeling that good at the time, and I wasn’t really in the mood to be teased… but it seemed my cock had other ideas. Mistress kissed me briefly and when she pulled away my cock was rock hard.

Mistress teased it with a finger, and I said… ‘Well maybe it would be okay then.’

Mistress soon had my cock out and knelt there sucking me, I can’t even remember the last time she knelt on the floor in front of me sucking my cock. I remember it used to happen a lot more often before chastity, well a bit more… but then that used to end with me either cumming in her mouth or over myself…

Mistress instructed me to open my eyes and watch her sucking my cock, it was hard not to imagine standing up and fucking her mouth, but of course, that was never going to happen! Mistress started slapping my cock and then sucked it some more. It felt wonderful and made me completely forget about the pain in my stomach.

After a while Mistress stood up and declared the end of my teasing, she leaned forward and we shared a lovely cock and wine flavoured kiss… 

Sadly the plan was for me to worship Mistress’s beautiful pussy this morning, but that didn’t happen, it will probably be tomorrow night now.