New poll, so when was it...

This time I'm asking a pretty straight-forward question, when did you lose you virginity. No grey areas. Losing your virginity is cock in pussy, unless you're gay I suppose.... anyway, I'll let you guys decide the finer details.
For me I was 18, and she was 21.... and then we dated for three years, split up, I had a barren six months and then I met Mistress R (who is about 6 months younger than me), which means, I never got to have sex with a teenager, even when I was a teenager! Weak!

Anyway, as for the last poll, unsurprisingly 52% of you waited 'years' to reveal your kinky side to your partner... although I can't help thinking that many of you, like me, probably didn't realise or truly acknowledge your kinkiness until you were already with someone for years. And then of course you have a dilemma....
21% of you waited 'months' and 8% 'weeks'. 1 person actually outed themselves on their first date and 18% are waiting for the right moment... good luck!

Welcome to my 70th follower, I seem to pick up about ten every month, so this is a good sign. Albeit my hits have really took a beating this week, after nearly hitting 3000 on the 5th.... oh well, must be holiday time!

A conversation last night...

Mistress R and I had our usual Thursday night at the pub last night and during this the topic of chastity came up and we discussed how it was going and we were pretty much in agreement that it's all good now. She asked me if I'd stopped worrying about it now, and I have, what's more I'd forgotten that I had been worrying about it at all... I guess that's partly because Mistress R has been a lot more generous with the penetration of late. But then again, maybe I've just got over it. I really love being inside her but I love it when she uses her hands on me too, it's not like her hands are an inferior substitute or one's better than the other, after all, she can't slap my cock with her pussy can she?
Anyway, we talked a bit about it all and how smoothly things are running between us now. I can't ever remember being so relaxed about sex, I mean I probably was a long time ago, but it was a long time ago. I honestly think chastity and Mistress R having control of my orgasms has benefited our sex life (and relationship) enormously. I love that Mistress R wants me to worship her pussy pretty much every other day now (oh sure every day would be even better, but maybe that's just me being greedy! Hahaha) and that she's finally accepted that I really don't mind if it takes a long time for her to cum, and of course this increasingly relaxed attitude means that she will probably want more attention and won't be reticent about asking for it whenever she wants it. Which is perfect.
I knew there would be stumbling blocks along the way, and who knows maybe there's more to come, but right now it feels very 'right'. I think the big thing I would say to any guy looking to be in my position is that you have to be straight up and you have to stick to your part of the deal. If you say that you want her to control your orgasms, then you better be prepared to accept it when she makes you wait a month. If you agree that penetration will only happen when she wants it to happen, then you better not start moaning about it if it doesn't happen as often as you thought it would.
I know that all sounds pretty straightforward but until it actually happens to you, well... let's just say it might not be as easy as you thought. But the thing is this, if you ask for this and then you fight it, what is she supposed to think, why wouldn't she tell you to forget it? She's going out of her way to give you what you've told her you want and then she's getting nothing but hassle for her trouble?
I think part of the problem is that a lot of guys think that it will be great for her, and it will, but not straight away. It takes time for the woman to accept what's happening and for it to stop being 'weird' and then she will probably enjoy it and appreciate the benefits.
As those of you who have read my blog from the start know, it's not always been easy over the last 6 months, but I stuck it out, and now I'm reaping the benefits. And I think if you want to live this way you have to be prepared for some period of adjustment. Most women are not going to embrace this straight away, no matter how much you explain the benefits to her, oh sure that might help, but they are still going to feel weird about 'stopping' before you cum and having sex and stopping when you can't take anymore without cumming.
I should think Mistress R and I are one of the few couples who haven't had any 'accidents' on our way to chastity, and maybe we stumbled into an easy path, starting with the 'week of chastity' leading up to our femdom sessions, then increasing it incrementally to a fortnight and then three weeks before finally having her take over total control.
I still can't really believe that about a year ago Mistress R was completely against this idea. She hated the idea and I dropped it, because she was more important to me than some sex-game, and then she brought it up a few weeks later... I was very lucky there, even though I knew she was only doing it for me and not for herself. I knew damn well she wasn't buying into the supposed 'benefits to her', they really only came later...
Anyway, I notice that a lot of blogs are a bit inactive at the moment and my own hits seem to be taking a dive too, oh well, it doesn't matter to me really, I'll still be here flying the chastity flag.

Nuts4Belle has made a post on his blog which seems appropriate to quote check it out here...

I’m totally ashamed of the way I acted last night. Belle was being the perfect keyholder, giving me exactly what I asked for. She woke me up, I got the pleasure of licking her to an orgasm…one of those orgasms that Contracted against my tongue. *shiver* Right before she came, she told me that it was the only orgasm I would feel that night. She also told me I was such a good boy…you know, the things you really love to hear when servicing your wife.

After she was done, she wanted to go to sleep. I should have left it at that. That is what a good husband does. Of course I became a little bitch. Begging to be unlocked, saying I couldn’t sleep, tossing and turning.
I made her feel guilty. She was doing everything right and I’m so glad she stuck to her guns. I feel really bad about it now.

Last day tomorrow...

This week is going so quickly, but isn't that always the way when you don't have to go to work! Fortunately Mistress R and I made time to go to bed this afternoon and I gave her another really hard orgasm with my tongue (they all seem to be hard ones these days, it's great!) and then she teased my cock again but still no orgasm for me. That's eighteen days now, and I could so have blown my load when she was sucking my cock, it felt fucking amazing, but of course, never without permission these days!
I kinda thought she would let me cum today, but she really isn't showing any signs of doing so. Which is great, because while of course I'd love to cum, I love that she's getting more comfortable about not letting me. I love having her control my cock so much, I can't even begin to tell you... as far as I'm concerned she can make me wait as long as she wants to.
It is apparent to me that she is getting used to this 'power' she has now, and when she decides to stop there's barely a hint of the uncertainty she would show a few months ago. I'm sure she loves how hard I get for her when I'm denied too, it must be an ego boost to see how much you turn your husband on like that...

Steady voting in the polls and it's good to see I'm not the only one who waited years to reveal their kinkiness to their partner... God forbid something should ever happen to Mistress R and I had to go through all that again!

New tease published at Milovana...

For those of you who are interested (and allowed to partake) my latest webtease has been published at Milovana. You can find it here...

Poll is finished...

The poll is now closed, and as you will all of course remember the question was....

If your wife told you that you were allowed to cum, that you could fuck her anyway you wanted and cum anywhere you wanted, but that she'd prefer it if you just worshipped her ass with your tongue - what would you do?
Well 84% said they would worship her ass and just 16% of you said that you'd go for it!

Well, the new poll is now up and this week Mistress R wants to know, how long did you know your partner before you brought up your Chastity/Femdom kink? For me it was about six years I reckon (for the Femdom side of it, the chastity is more like eighteen years!) so that's why I've made the poll a bit vague, just choose the option that best fits your situation.

Mistress R hits 50...

...orgasms that is (since we started full time chastity for me). And after a few days without, it was really lovely to feel her cum under my tongue... I hope there's plenty more of that this week!
After I made her cum she started teasing me and I slowly relaxed and got harder and harder until it was pretty much as hard as I can ever remember it being without a cock ring. Mistress seemed to be enjoying how hard I was for her and straddled me, slipping my rock hard cock inside her still wet pussy. It felt wonderful to be inside her again even though I guess it hasn't been that long.
She rode my cock for longer than I think she has since we started this and I loved every second of it, and as I looked up at her I kept thinking 'any minute now she's going to tell me she wants me to cum inside her...'. Of course as ever I was a little conflicted about that, obviously I wanted to shoot my 16 days of cum into her, but at the same time I wanted her to make me wait, to deny me, to use my cock for her pleasure and to control my orgasm and to grant it only when she wants to... and that ultimately was what she did.
A few times she stopped and bent forward to kiss me with my cock still buried deep inside her and in a way I was actually kinda surprised when she climbed off me, but then she knelt beside me and I thought 'maybe she's going to finish me off by hand...'. Wrong again, she grabbed the base of my still rock-hard cock with her left hand and started slapping it with her right. Then she noticed that my cock was dripping with her pussy juices and scooped some onto her finger and had me lick it clean - that was sooo hot!
And then she kissed me some more and that was the end of my teasing for another day.... so I still have no real idea when I will get to cum again. It's about twelve days until our next Femdom session, but that's no guarantee of anything anymore, maybe she wants me to wait beyond that and to set a new record? Or maybe not. Maybe she will let me cum this week like she said she might, or maybe not?
It does quite amaze me how much control I have over my cock given that I haven't cum for 16 days straight, as it was relatively easy to keep control when I was inside her beautiful, slippery pussy. I am pretty pleased about that though, because it would suck if I had to tell her to stop after thirty seconds like I did a few weeks back!
Well, now our little holiday is out of the way, we can kick back and relax for the rest of the week, and hopefully that means I'll get to worship Mistress R's pussy (and anything else she wants me to worship) a few more times before we have to go back to work on Monday... and if she wants to tease me some more and let me cum (or not let me cum) then I'm sure that'll be wonderful too!

Oh yeah, also.... yesterday was a new record for the blog with a count of 2863 pageviews, thanks a lot!

Back from hols...

So Mistress R and I just got back a couple of hours ago... I see I've gained a couple of new followers since Friday - welcome to both of you, I hope you enjoy my blog.

Well, our trip was an experience, Bruges is a nice place, and there are 52 chocolate shops in the city. Can't be bad. I did find it a bit odd that some of them had chocolate cocks in them though, I mean I wouldn't expect to find Thorntons selling chocolate cocks, and the ones with the white chocolate cum dribble.... that's just going too far... (actually these pictures aren't nearly as 'precise' as the ones we saw, they were more like pre-cum dribbles!).

(Who buys this stuff, it's just really lame...)

Anyway, that aside, Bruges is nice and Mistress R and I had an absolutely awesome serving of 'Frites' in the main square at 'The Fritery', thoroughly recommended! Shortly after this I remarked to her that her next orgasm would be her 50th since we started this and she asked how many I will have had next time I am allowed to cum. I told her my next will be my twelfth since April 1st. She mused a little while on the ratio of four to one, but didn't give any indication of when that twelfth one might be (earlier the previous day when we had been queueing to get on the boat she asked me how long I had been waiting to cum, I told her 12 days and she said 'Oh, not that long then really...' which of course immediately made me hard. I love it when she says things like that, like two weeks is nothing for me to wait... so HOT!!!!).

Unfortunately Mistress R didn't hit her 50th orgasm on our trip, as the boat was quite noisy and it really wasn't a good environment for Mistress to relax enough in, still... she did give me some wonderful teasing, and she never even took my shorts off! We were crashed on the cabin bed after returning from Bruges and she reached down and started pressing on and stimulating my cock, which quickly got hard since it's now almost two weeks since I have cum. She kept this up for maybe 5 minutes or maybe a little longer, which was wonderful as my cock was trapped inside my shorts and boxers as she rubbed it and tickled the head. 

When she'd had enough she asked me for one of the Belgian chocolates we had bought and I gave her one and then I turned around on the bed and started to kiss her lovely legs. 

Mistress R said 'I wouldn't get too close to my feet if I were you' (since we'd just got back from a six hour excursion around Bruges), but I ignored her and started to kiss her beautiful soft feet anyway. I must have kissed them for about 15 minutes while Mistress R read her book and my cock was hard the entire time. Of course Mistress R's feet weren't quite as beautifully 'fragrant' as usual, but it certainly wasn't unpleasant and I loved doing it (hence the hard cock!)... in fact it felt a lot more submissive worshipping her feet like this than if she'd just washed them... besides I would of course love it one day if Mistress would be confident enough to 'expect' me to worship any part of her gorgeous body at any time she wanted. We are a long way from that of course, but maybe this was a tiny step towards that ultimate goal. 

I guess it's a hard thing for women to understand that sometimes we don't want them to smell of nothing but soap and fruit and flowers... anyway I really did love every last second of it.  

On the drive home this morning Mistress R said to me, 'Maybe you will get to cum' this holiday' (we are off work this week, even though we are back home now after our weekend away), I just said 'Well that's for you to decide', she just smiled... 

I honestly don't mind what she decides, either way will be lovely for me! I'm more eager to get her to her fiftieth than worrying about my own orgasm to be honest.

It's funny, I read something the other day (I think it was on Thumper's blog, but I'm not 100% sure) and he said that rather than craving his own orgasm, instead he craves the feeling of making his wife cum, and I can totally relate to that. Cos that's exactly how I feel these days too. The only time I really crave my own orgasm is when I'm getting close to having one, that's when it really kicks in...

Well, okay, maybe there are a few other times too (hahaha) but mostly it really is all about her pleasure. Just the way it should be!